Where to Find Gooning Communities - Discord, Reddit, and Beyond

Gooning can be a solo practice, but it doesn't have to be. The community around extended edging is active, welcoming, and spans multiple platforms. Whether you're looking for technique discussion, accountability partners, or just people who understand what you're into, there's a space for you.

Reddit

r/EdgingTalk

The largest and most active edging community on the internet, with roughly 300,000 members. The subreddit serves multiple functions: advice forum, technique library, journaling space, dirty talk venue, and support group.

The culture is casual, explicit, and often humorous. Self-awareness and irony coexist with genuine eroticism. The highest-rated posts are detailed guides written by experienced practitioners - the community has a strong teaching ethic.

Content on r/EdgingTalk includes:

  • Technique guides and FAQs
  • Personal breakthrough stories
  • Session journals and accountability posts
  • Dirty talk and mutual encouragement
  • Gear recommendations and setup discussions

The subreddit is predominantly male but has a visible and welcomed female minority. Multiple commenters have requested more content for women and AFAB practitioners - the community acknowledges this gap openly.

r/GoonCaves

Focused on the physical setup - the "goon cave" itself. Posts show off room arrangements, screen configurations, lighting setups, and gear collections. More visual and gear-focused than r/EdgingTalk.

r/OrgasmControl

Broader focus that includes edging, denial, chastity, and orgasm control dynamics (solo and partnered). Less gooning-specific but has overlapping content and audience.

Discord

Discord is where a lot of the real-time gooning community lives. Unlike Reddit (which is organized around posts), Discord is organized around ongoing conversations. The pace is faster, the interaction is more immediate, and the community feels tighter.

Most Discord servers for gooning are invite-only or have invite links shared in Reddit posts. A few things to know:

  • Expect verification. Most servers require you to read rules and confirm you're over 18 before accessing content channels.
  • Niche servers exist. There are servers specifically for PMV sharing, for denial challenge groups, for audio hypno, and for general gooning chat.
  • Quality varies. Some servers are well-moderated with structured channels. Others are chaotic or inactive. If one server doesn't fit, try another.

The best way to find active Discord servers is to search r/EdgingTalk and related subreddits for recent posts that share invite links. Old invite links often expire, so look for posts from the last few months.

Telegram

Telegram hosts a number of gooning-focused channels and groups. The platform's privacy features (phone numbers hidden from other members, self-destructing messages, no algorithmic feed) make it attractive for communities that want to stay under the radar.

Telegram content tends to be more media-focused (PMV sharing, caption channels, hypno file libraries) than discussion-focused. If you're looking for a content feed rather than conversation, Telegram is a good option.

BateWorld

BateWorld is a dedicated social network for men who enjoy masturbation as a recreational activity. It's not specifically gooning-focused, but the overlap is significant.

The platform includes:

  • Profile-based member directory
  • Discussion forums
  • Live chat rooms
  • Event listings (in-person "bate" gatherings, though these are rare)

BateWorld has been around since the early 2000s and has a somewhat older demographic than Reddit or Discord. The culture is more explicitly social - members connect for mutual masturbation sessions (in-person or cam) rather than just discussion.

4chan

The /b/ (random) and /s/ (adult) boards were where a lot of the early gooning culture developed, including the term "gooner" itself. 4chan is still active but less central to the community than it was in the 2010s.

Content on 4chan is anonymous and ephemeral. Threads disappear within hours or days. The signal-to-noise ratio is low. It's not a good place for sustained community connection, but it's where some of the culture's inside jokes and memes originated.

How to Choose Where to Start

If you want structured learning: Start with r/EdgingTalk. The guides and FAQs are the best introductory material in the community. Read the top posts of all time. You'll learn more in an hour than in weeks of casual browsing.

If you want real-time community: Find a Discord server. The conversation is faster, more personal, and more supportive than Reddit. You can ask questions and get immediate responses.

If you want media and content: Try Telegram. The channels are focused on sharing PMVs, captions, and hypno files rather than discussion.

If you want social connection with potential real-world meetups: BateWorld. It's a different format than the others - more like a social network than a forum.

Community Etiquette

Across all platforms, a few norms apply:

  • Don't share unsolicited content. Not everyone wants to see your dick, your favorite PMV, or your goon cave. Share in the appropriate channels.
  • Respect limits. "No" is a complete sentence. If someone doesn't want to edge with you, that's final.
  • Be honest about your experience level. Beginners are welcome everywhere. Pretending to be more experienced than you are helps no one.
  • Contribute. The community runs on shared knowledge. If you learn something, pass it on.

The Cave

Thegooner.net also has its own community product in development. The Cave is an AI companion built for gooners - chat, stream media, track sessions. It's the site's answer to "what if the community had a dedicated space that wasn't controlled by Reddit or Discord." Details will be shared here as development progresses.