The Lovense Lapis is the double-ended strapless strap-on that actually tries to give both people a good time. Unlike most strap-ons where only the receiver gets the stimulation, the Lapis has a bulb that sits inside the wearer and vibrates, plus a vibrating insertable shaft for the receiver. Both ends are powered by the Lovense app, so each person can drive their own side, and it connects to the same long-distance ecosystem the rest of the lineup uses. For couples who goon together, it's a genuine upgrade over a plain strap-on.
The short version: if you want a strap-on where both partners feel it, this is the one. The dual vibration means the wearer isn't just providing, they're participating, and the app control turns it into a shared, connected experience.
The Verdict
Rating: 4.7 / 5
The short version: A strapless strap-on that stimulates both people. Vibrating bulb for the wearer, vibrating shaft for the receiver, all app-controlled. The best couples toy for connected play.
Best for: couples who goon together, strap-on play where the wearer also wants stimulation, long-distance couples, anyone who wants app control on both ends. Skip it if: you want a harnessed strap-on for maximum control, or you want a dedicated internal G-spot toy instead.
Buy it here: /toys/lovense-lapis
Pros
- Both ends vibrate, so the wearer and the receiver both get stimulation instead of just the receiver.
- Each side is app-controlled independently, so each person can drive their own sensation.
- Fully waterproof and quiet, keeping sessions comfortable and discreet.
- Fits the Lovense long-distance ecosystem, so a partner can control it remotely.
- Gives G-spot stimulation to the receiver and internal stimulation to the wearer.
Cons
- Strapless strap-ons rely on your pelvic floor muscles to stay in place, so they can be less secure than a harnessed toy and need some practice.
- It's a couples toy, so it's not much use for solo play beyond the two ends as separate vibrators.
- App-dependent for the full independent-control experience.
What It's Actually Like to Use
Strapless strap-ons have a reputation for being fiddly, and the Lapis is the version that handles it best. Here's the honest picture of what it's like for both people over a week of real use.
First impressions. Out of the box it looks like what it is: a curved, double-ended toy with a bulb on one end and a shaft on the other. The silicone is soft and body-safe, the curve is shaped to sit against the wearer's G-spot while the shaft angles forward, and it's clearly a premium, well-made toy. It charges magnetically and feels substantial in the hand, not flimsy.
In use. The key to a strapless strap-on is getting it to stay put, and the Lapis does its part with the curved, gripping bulb that sits inside the wearer. It still takes some practice and your muscles doing a bit of work, but once it's settled, it holds. The wearer gets internal stimulation from the bulb, which is a completely different experience from a plain strap-on where you feel nothing. The receiver gets the G-spot stimulation from the shaft. Running both at once, especially with the app's patterns, turns penetration into a shared, connected thing where both people are in it rather than one providing and one receiving.
Long sessions. This is where it shines for couples who goon together. Because both people are being stimulated, the session becomes a mutual edge rather than one person working. It's quiet enough that it doesn't pull you out of the zone, and both ends vibrate strongly enough to matter for an extended session. The one thing to know is that because it relies on your muscles to hold it, you'll want a comfortable position and maybe a harness on hand if you want to move around a lot.
The app. Full Lovense support, so each end can be controlled independently, and a partner can control it remotely for long-distance play. The independent control is the standout, because it means each person can tune their own side rather than sharing one setting. Setup takes a minute and the Bluetooth holds as long as your phone is near.
Cleaning. Fully waterproof, so both ends rinse clean under warm water with toy cleaner and dry fast. No disassembly. Easy to keep clean and ready for the next session.
The verdict in practice. After a week of real use, I'd keep it and I'd recommend it to couples who want a strap-on where both people feel it. It takes a little practice to hold in place, but the shared stimulation is a genuine upgrade over a plain strap-on, and the app control makes it fit the connected, long-distance side of gooning too.
How It Compares
Lovense Nora (/toys/lovense-nora). The solo G-spot alternative. The Nora is a single internal G-spot vibrator that syncs with the Max 2 for partnered play. The Lapis is a double-ended strap-on that stimulates both people at once. Pick the Nora for a solo G-spot toy; pick the Lapis for simultaneous couples stimulation.
Lovense Dolce (/toys/lovense-dolce). The dual-stimulation alternative. The Dolce has two motors for clitoral and G-spot stimulation on one person. The Lapis spreads the stimulation across two people. Pick the Dolce for solo dual play; pick the Lapis for two-person connected play.
Lovense Lush 4 (/toys/lovense-lush-4). The wearable alternative. The Lush 4 is a wearable internal vibe for one person. The Lapis is a couples strap-on. Pick the Lush 4 for discreet wearable play; pick the Lapis for partnered strap-on play.
Who Should Buy It
Buy the Lapis if you're a couple that goons together and wants a strap-on where both of you feel it. The dual vibration means neither person is just providing, and the independent app control lets each of you drive your own sensation.
It's also the right pick if you want a couples toy that fits the long-distance side of your practice, because the app lets a partner control it from anywhere. Skip it if you want a harnessed strap-on for maximum positional control, or if you're only interested in solo play. For couples wanting shared, connected stimulation, this is the one.
FAQ
Is the Lovense Lapis worth it?
Yes, for couples who want a strap-on where both people feel stimulation. The dual vibrating ends and independent app control justify the price, and it fits connected and long-distance play.
Is the Lovense Lapis waterproof?
Yes, it's IPX7 waterproof. Both ends rinse clean under warm water and it's easy to clean.
Can the Lovense Lapis be used long distance / app-controlled?
Yes. It connects to the Lovense app over Bluetooth, each end can be controlled independently, and a partner can control it from anywhere.
How loud is the Lovense Lapis?
It's quiet. At normal settings both ends stay discreet, which keeps sessions comfortable and doesn't pull you out of the zone.
How does a strapless strap-on stay in place?
The curved bulb sits inside the wearer and is held in place by their pelvic floor muscles. It takes a little practice and a comfortable position, and some people add a harness for extra security during longer or more active sessions.
The Lapis is the couples toy that makes a strap-on work for both people. Both ends vibrate, each side is app-controlled, and it fits the connected, long-distance side of gooning. If you want shared stimulation instead of one person providing, this is the one.
If you're weighing it against the other couples and internal toys we carry, the sex toys for edging guide covers the options, and the gooning as a couple guide shows how connected play fits your practice.
